“The basic thing we need to do is forgive ourselves for forgetting that we are divine. That is the real message to open up the channel for our return to Spirit.” – John-Roger

From the moment we’re born, we begin to form limiting beliefs and judgments about ourselves, about life and our safety. We hear messages that cause us to think we’re not enough, that we need the approval of others in order to be okay, that there are certain criteria to be met in order to be “worthy.” We have forgotten that we already are all of that. And by our judgments, we create a separation from Spirit and our true nature.

We create these illusions that separate us and then believe they’re real. We believe the suffering, the scarcity, the loneliness is real. We forget who we are and whose arms embrace us each moment. We look outside of ourselves for our fulfillment and sense of worth, instead of turning inward. Think about the conversations you have with yourself during the day. Are they respectful and loving? Or are they filled with judgment of yourself and others? For many of us, our thoughts, language and beliefs are filled with negativity. “I never get anything right.” “What will people think?” “I can’t believe I did that.” “I can’t stand the way I look.” “I hate myself.” All variations of “I’m not enough as I am.” All illusions.

When we look at why we hold onto these judgments from the lower level that created them, it makes perfect sense. That’s the level that doubts we are worthy of forgiveness. That’s the level that fears we’ll repeat the same mistakes if we don’t constantly berate ourselves for how we “screwed up. ” We use judgment and shame as a motivator to be better. In a strange way, we use the judgments against ourselves as a way of bringing us into balance. And, even though that doesn’t bring about lasting change, we continue to do it anyway, because that’s all we know on that level of consciousness.

These judgments do not help us grow or evolve. They simply keep us stuck in the lower levels. And, as uncomfortable as it is, we can become comfortable being in this negativity. Until our soul begins to awaken. And we begin to remember or dare to believe the truth of who we are.

Because we are already part of the Divine, there’s nothing we have to learn to do to be “Spiritual.” We already are. We just need to release the judgments that have created this separation. One of the most powerful tools to assist with this is self-forgiveness. By forgiving ourselves for the judgments we have, we open the pathway to our Soul. Self-forgiveness gives instructions to our unconscious of our intention, and gives permission to our High Self and Spirit to bring in the higher vibrations of Light to transform the old belief. This simple, loving process unlocks the heart, and allows us to begin to walk in grace and be at peace.

Self-Forgiveness Exercises

Think of a judgment that you made against yourself this week. And, simply start with “I forgive myself for judging myself.” Take a deep breath and let it go. Then, check inside. You may notice lightness, or simply feel a little better. Or, you may feel nothing at all, but making this into a habitual exercise will allow you to continue to release the energy of limiting beliefs that have been holding you back.

This process is most effective if you are in a state of prayer or ask to be surrounded by the Light of the Holy Spirit before you begin. Hold the intention of being ready to release this judgment, and do it with a loving energy. You may need to be more specific, and go to a deeper level. Here are some examples:

  • I forgive myself for believing that I’m not enough just as I am.
  • I forgive myself for abandoning myself in order to please others.
  • I forgive myself for believing that I’m responsible for others.
  • I forgive myself for believing that it’s not okay for me to get what I want.
  • I forgive myself for forgetting that I am Divine.

This is a very powerful process to do at the end of the day before you go to sleep. Go back over your day and notice what judgments came up. Do self forgiveness statements to begin to release this negativity. After a while, you begin to notice all the judgments that govern your life and you can begin to free yourself of them.

Is this simple? Yes. Is it easy? Yes and no. We are so conditioned in our negativity, that it is an ongoing process to recognize our judgments and limiting beliefs in order to forgive ourselves. This is a process of lifting all the ways we oppress our Spirit and keep ourselves “small” while also healing the wounds that have kept us stuck and in the dark.

May we all become aware as our Soul is aware.